Back in January, I decided my word for the year – my theme, if you will – was contentment.
But what does that really mean?
Sometimes we sort of lose ourselves in the day-to-day and don’t even realize it. I think this happens especially when we first become moms. You suddenly have this other person whose needs you have to constantly think about, and it’s easy to just sort of let yourself fade away.
I was listening to The Simple Show podcast today, and Tsh mentioned that when she had her first baby she felt as if every semblance of her had disappeared.
There has been a lot of attention on women’s body image issues lately. Mom’s are posting their bikini-clad post-baby bodies left and right. And I think it’s awesome. I want women to feel great about their bodies.
But I’m just not going to jump on the bikini-bandwagon. Can’t do it. As much as I’d love to be the type of woman who proudly displays her “tiger stripes” as a childbearing badge of honor, I’m just not her.
Remember back in January when I said I was going to work on increasing my level of contentment?
My goal was to get to a place where I could just be… slow. A place where I wasn’t constantly worrying, planning, treading water. Where I could sit and look out the window and appreciate the beauty of a fresh snow (or, as is more appropriate now that it is late spring, a light rain… or a downpour). A place where I could actually sit with my children and play dolls without making mental to-do lists (Load of laundry? Check. Vacuum upstairs? That’s next. Clean kids’ bathroom? Crap. Ok, that’s next.)
Natural mommas sometimes get a bad rap. I don’t know many natural mommas in my personal life, and I often see/hear how those who don’t identify with that label talk about us. They see us as self-righteous, over-the-top, and unbending. And I can see why they think that of us when I see some of the sanctimonious articles out there, berating mom’s who make choices that don’t match certain ideals.
But I’m here to tell you, not all natural mommas are like that. In fact, MOST natural mommas are not like that. We are regular people, who don’t believe we are perfect or better or experts. Just like any other mom who is trying to do her best for her kids – we are doing the same.